This one right here is on a serious note folks. I was speaking to my homegirl Ginger the other day and she was giving me the low-down on one of her latest sexual exploits. She touched on something that gave me a moment of pause and I'm going to shoot it out there and you can let me know what you think. My friend Ginger and I are both bon a fide "sex-a-holics". We used to be fuck buddies a while back and at some point we stopped because this girl was giving my dick such a workout I had to beg for mercy!!! With all the of the wild and kinky things Ginger and I have done between us both we can both write a couple of books and have a talk show. But no matter how kinky and crazy our fun has been....we always played it safe!!!! Let me repeat it folks....we always played it safe!!!I say that to ask this....in the year 2009 with AIDS and other nasty diseases skyrocketing at an all-time high...Why the fuck are people still trying to have unprotected sex????
Listen, I'm a man and I'm not even going to sit here and tell you that I haven't fell victim to momentary lapses in judgement...we as men are knowing for thinking with "the little head between our legs" instead of "the big head between our shoulders"; and yeah we will say and do just about anything to fuck. But even in my tender years I still kept my "hat" on the right "head" and kept it moving because I was probably to afraid to think of what could happen if I didn't. So when my friend Ginger told me about her latest encounter it really made me think about why even people who should know better don't always use the good sense God gave fleas. Ginger is young,pretty,single, and focused. She's a manager at a bank and she's used to getting whatever she wants whenever she wants.....not bitchy...just really firm and direct when she needs to be. So I wasn't surprised when she called and told me that she was going out on a date with this guy "Rod" a mortgage broker who was constantly flirting with her every time he came into the bank. By Ginger's account the guy looked good, was college educated and had a lot going on upstairs as well as down below so she figured "Hey, might as well give him a shot". She called me a couple of days later and left a message on my phone...something to the effect of "Hey, call me back when you get the chance, you'll never believe what that muthafucker tried to pull on me." She sounded tight...that was not good, so when I got free I hit her up to see what was the deal. Ginger has two sides...the no joke don't fuck with me side...and the jokey playful nasty side. Whatever Rod did to her brought out the no joke don't fuck with me side...again not good.
When I called her back I asked her how everything went with the date...y'know the typical questions. Where'd you go? Where'd you eat? Etc, etc. By her account the date went as followed: He picked her up in his very expensive sports car. Check. They went to a very exclusive restaurant. Check. They went to a little after-hour spot that played live music. Check. They went back to her place....Hmmmm....this is where it gets interesting. Ginger is a chick after my own heart, she likes to set the tone early, there is no guess work; if she's digging you..she's going to fuck you. Point blank. Period. It really is that simple with her. So as she's running down the details to me she was really starting to get worked up and says something about how they fucked but it was wack because he was acting stupid. I was like WTF??? ...LOL...What happened?? She said "Would you believe this clown wanted to fuck with no condom???" I said "Really...no condom???" And she repeated it "No Condom!!!" There was a little silence between us on the phone as I took in what she was telling me. Ginger told me that it wasn't the fact that he suggested fucking with no condom but it was the fact that he was so insistent on it, feeding her lines like she was some young, dumb girl who'd never did the deed before. Just her thinking about it got her fired up. "Can you believe in this day and age with all this nasty shit floating around this fucker wants me to just spread my legs so he can run up and give me God knows what!!! Uhh Unnn, buddy you better take that shit somewhere else!!!" Ginger really was a riot when you got her started but I couldn't agree with her more. She continued on by saying"Here it is this seemingly intelligent guy wanted to do something so stupid the 1st time out, it's not like he 's known me a long time. And when we were fucking this idiot is stopping like every other minute messing with the condom talking about..."It would feel alot better if we didn't have to deal with this"...it was so annoying it just turned me off". I was listening to Ginger but my mind was drifting to the different encounters I had with women and I started to think even as a guy how many times I'd been told by women"Oh, you don't need a condom, I trust you" or "I want to feel you inside of me, not some damm rubber." It was a small number really but any number can be scary when you think on it hard enough. "So, I guess you can never really know what a person is about or what's going on inside their head" she sighed. I was like "Yeah, I guess" answering her kind of absent mindedly because what she was telling me put me in another space. "But Ging, that's just like one random dude y'know...not all guys are on that bullshit." She said "I know, but a few have tried and I put their ass in check!!!". She told me another scenario where she was dealing with this guy on the steady for about 5 or 6 months. She spent the night over his house after one of Ginger's infamous all-night fuck sessions, when they woke up the next morning they were spooning and dude just casually starts to slip his dick inside her. She was startled and looked over at him like "Uuuhhhh..Helllllllooooo....WTF??" and he sheepishly looked at her and said "My bad, I thought we were cool?". As I listened to her all I could do was shake my head because it really was crazy how irresponsible and reckless people can be.
I don't know how true it is, but I think I just recently heard something on the news about a porn star or a group of porn stars that recently tested positive for some STD. Damm, and those are porn stars!!! In that industry they usually get tested before every shoot, so who knows what your dealing with when your hooking up with your average Jane or Joe Blow. So after talking with Ginger a little while we made a pact with each other; if on our next encounter we run across someone who even faintly suggests that it's cool not to use protection; we're putting on our clothes and heading for the hills because that person is either on drugs or mentally imbalanced!!! And look, I'm a guy whose kind of been there and done that, but I'm never going to put myself in harm's way taking that kind of risk. I guess it gets really fuzzy for folks when you've been with someone awhile and you might be trying to take it to that next level in your relationship; but these days the proof is in the pudding...if your really serious about moving on to that next level of your relationship, take your asses down to the clinic and get tested.
It's really hard to trust people these days and even when you do..who's to say that the trust you've built up won't be broken. All I know is that it's better to be safe than sorry. So until the next time we meet...play it safe people...play it safe...over and out.
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